Mutual Funds
Today I got a letter in the mail from my Aunt that has Valentine's stickers all over it. I'm thinking, oh how fun! She sent me a Valentine letter. I opened it up and it's a 1099 form with an account summary from Charles Schwab. Let me take a few steps back, when I was born my Grandma began to put money away for my education. I knew that there was college money for me, but I just thought it was in a savings account and had no idea how much it is. My aunt always managed it for my Grandma and never said anything about it, I just was told it existed. Well, once I got older I started to wonder exactly where this money is and if it really is in Savings, or invested in stocks, mutual funds, whatever. So, I started to question my Aunt about it but she would never give me straight answers. So I still knew nothing about it, but that it was there and for my education only. I tried to ask her on several occasions just so I could learn about it because obviously as I got older I got more interested in investments, and such. I think she thought I wanted the money, which was never the case. Why would I want to take money that my (now deceased) Grandmother spent years saving for me to spend on anything but education? I love that she did that for me, and would never think about blowing it on anything else. So, back to today... I get this 1099 and a letter that says
"Dear Elizabeth, You need this information to file your taxes for 2004. I start work on Valentine's Day with a new job, so I'm trying to get all of my paperwork done. It's been raining a lot here, but this is Phoenix so it will soon be hot! I will probably have roses in bloom by Easter. Miss you!"
Ok, that's great. Now I know that this money is in Mutual Funds, but the rest is gibberish to me. Wait... hold on a second... ok, I see where she took out that $1000 to give me when I moved to San Jose, but wait a sec... this says she took out another $1000 in December. That's funny because it sure didn't come to me. Hmmm... and look at this! Under Recipient's name and address it says:
(Aunt's Name) Cust for
Elizabeth blah blah blah
Until age 21
Well, fuck me hard and call me Rhonda! I have every fucking right to this account! And, now that I see that she took $1000 out of it for God only knows what that I was never made aware or, nor did I ever see that money, I see why she doesn't want me to know anything about it! This is money for my education that my Grandmother put away for me, and she's controlling it because she's fucking spending it! AHHHHHH!!!! I should probably also tell you all that this woman can not keep a job to save her life and at the beginning of December she told my sister in law she had no idea how they were going to make their mortgage/car payments in December. What a coincidence! She made the $1000 withdrawal on December 21st. Ok, so all that aside... I'm trying to decipher what this statement says and what all of it means. So, I make the mistake of taking it to my brother. He tells me he doesn't really know, and that I should just ask my Aunt. My sister in law suggested I call Charles Schwab myself seeing as how I'm well over 21 and am completely entitled to the account. My brother says no, that it's none of my business. So they start arguing about that and my brother says, that I have no business calling because my Aunt manages it and that's the way it's always going to be. If I want to know something I need to call her. His wife said she thinks I should see about gaining control of it because obviously something fishy is going on with it, and since it's mine, I have every right to it. Then my brother says, right in front of my face "No, because she's a fuckin idiot and would probably blow it all right away and then my Aunt would kill her. Besides, what happened when your brother got the $15k from when your dad died? He fuckin blew it on guitar shit!" After calling me a fuckin idiot for NO reason right in front of my face, and saying I would probably blow the money that my Grandma saved for my education I couldn't even talk. My jaw just dropped! His wife told him that that's bullshit that I'm almost 25 years old and clearly responsible enough to handle it, and she pointed out that her brother was 18 when he was given a check for $15k, not a 24 and getting mutual funds. So, while they're still arguing I just left the room still in shock that he would say that about me while I'm sitting right there, when he has absolutely NOTHING to base that on. I went in to ask him for advice and come out after being called an irresponsible fuckin idiot. Thanks bro. I came in my room and was taking my shoes off when I hear him calling me, for a very brief second I thought maybe it MIGHT be to apologize... no fuckin way. I went back in there and he goes "Now I'm curious to know how much is in that account. But it will probably just frustrate you to find out because you'll just want it for yourself. So anyway, just e-mail her and ask her. I'm sure she'll help you." I just looked at him and walked out. I'm sure a lot of you are wondering why I didn't say anything to him, or stand up for myself at all. Normally, if anyone else in the world were to say something like that about me, it would be ON! But, he's a different story. He will win every argument. And if he doesn't win, he fights dirty and goes for the jugular. He will say everything he can to hurt you until you give up. I hate that. I hate arguing period, but even if I know I'm right with him I won't argue because all he does is say horrible shit that makes me feel even worse. He is the king of belittling. Up until that I had such a great night, and right now I'm packing a bag to stay with my other brother this weekend.
Yay!!!!
I got the best call yesterday, and then again today.
Cop called me, which is VERY rare these days because his stupid psycho bitch wife has him on the shortest leaf EVER! He called from a new number though, which I thought was weird because when he and his wife moved in with her parents she made him get rid of his cell phone and said they could share hers, and of course he was never allowed to call me. Anyway, I asked him how he's doing and he said "Well, she made me take our son out of his pre-school because she said we couldn't afford it, then went and bought herself a brand new $40k car without me knowing. That was just the icing on the cake for me, so I got my own apartment, I'm moving out tonight, got a new job, and am seeing a lawyer this week to start the divorce, and custody paperwork." I was so excited for him because she's such a... well, you know how I feel about her. Anyway, he's done this god only knows how many times so I was like "good for you!", but didn't believe him 100%. Today he called again and said that he moved out despite her begging and pleading with him to stay. He got his own phone and is not giving her the number, which is very smart because she's PSYCHO! He said all communication has to go through his lawyer, or his mom in emergencies. He has an appointment with the lawyer tomorrow to get all the paperwork started and already worked out a payment plan for it. Ok, so now I believe him a little more. He's really adamant about it this time. I told him how happy I am to have my best friend back and he goes "Yeah, for the time being. Until I meet another psycho bitch." We both laughed, and I said yeah I'll enjoy having him back for a week or so. Then he goes "Just kidding, you're the only beezy I need in my life." I'm SO happy he's leaving her! She was ALL bad for him from day one, too bad it took him like 6 years to realize it! He's going to be so much happier now, I can already hear relief in his voice. Yay!
Snap out of it
Yesterday was great! I had a good day at work, people were in a good mood, my brother and sister in law were in great moods, and I talked to
Chester all throughout the day and night. He was being SO sweet. He was so nice, and complimentary, and just fun to talk to the entire day. I felt myself getting sucked back into to his charm... and though it felt really good at the time, there was that little voice in the back of my head saying "Hellooooooooo! Deja Vu!!!" After we hung up for the last time last night I really started thinking about all of it. So today I just decided to lay it all out, and get some real answers out of him. I asked him what exactly he's doing with me, what expectations he has (if any), if he's serious about this fairy tale picture he's painting, or if he's just having fun flirting with me again. He swore up and down that he's serious, and means every word he says, and he does want to see where we go... BUT... he said that he does have restrictions. BINGO! I asked what they are and he said his 2 daughters (They're 3 and 10). He said that he spends a lot of time with them, and doesn't introduce them to any women for a long time. I told him that I think that's great and that's how it should be. It's a parents' job to protect their children. They are already confused enough because their parents aren't together, you certainly shouldn't add to it by introducing them to random women, just so they can get close to them and when it doesn't work out they have to deal with that too. I learned that with
Mama's Boy. I met his daughter right away when she was 2 and loved her to death! We were SO close. We broke up when she was 4 and it broke my heart to not see her anymore. Then I would talk to his mom and she told me that his little girl had a hard time not having me around anymore. I definitely don't want to go through that again. At the same time though, it's very hard for me to not think this is another one of
Chester's excuses. He used to have a new one every week last time we were seeing eachother. So, that definitely was a red flag in my head. Then, he wanted to see recent pictures of me so I sent some and he was totally complimentary again, then asked if I got implants! haha! One of the tops I had on in one of the pictures sure makes it look that way, but no, they're all real. So then he asked if he could explore them. I told him I, too, have restrictions. He asked what they are, so I told him I have to protect myself like he has to protect his daughters. One way I do that is by waiting to have sex in a relationship. (I'm sure you all choked when you read that, but hey, there's a first for everything, and with him I will DEFINITELY enforce this rule.) Last time our so-called relationship was strictly about the sex, this time it has to be different or not at all. I want more now, and will not go back to that again. He said that he agrees, and that that's a good thing. cough*bullshit*cough I was like really? You
really agree?
You??? He said yeah, because sex makes babies, and babies take commitment and the next time he has a baby, it's going to be with the woman he's going to be with forever. No more joint custody for him. I told him I'm glad he understood then. He said that he understands, but after seeing my pictures it's going to be very hard for him to hold back, but that he would try. I was like try??? You don't have another option, it's not happening. He said there is another option, cuddling and kissing. He and I both know he can't stop at that. So, looks like we'll be seeing eachother in public places quite a bit for a while. After all that he decided to turn the tables and ask me all the questions I asked him. He asked me if I would like to happen when I move back, I told him I have no expectations. He asked if I have any hopes, or wishes that I would share with him. I told him I hope he's actually changed and isn't just feeding me bullshit like last time. I guess we'll soon find out.
I talked to
First about all of this the other day because he gives great advice. He said that he doesn't think I should get together with
Chester because he thinks
Chester will derail all my goals, and reasons that made me decide to move back to NM. He said he thinks if I get involved with him again I'll throw school away, and end up being miserable like I was before I moved to CA. He's absolutely right. Guys have always had a way with distracting me from the things I should be doing, like school. It's happened a couple times before. So, I definitely took his advice into consideration. He also said that he's not saying I shouldn't get involved with anyone, just that I need to make sure whoever it is supportive and wants to see me achieve my goals, not take me away from them. Also, if moving back to CA after school is important to me I need to think about that and make sure whoever I get involved with is open to that too. Like I said, he gives great advice. Then he ended with saying "Since you already know
Chester is a good plumber you could just keep him around to clean your pipes every once in a while, but keep it at that, and this time you need to be the one making the booty calls, not him." I was cracking up at that one!
Happy Valentine's Day!
That's right, I'm single, and I still wish you all a very Happy Valentine's Day! I know a lot of single people are very bitter about this holiday. They say it's just another stupid Hallmark holiday, blah blah blah. I don't agree. It's always been one of my favorite holidays, whether I have a significant other to share it with or not. To me, Valentine's Day is a day to celebrate love, love for significant others, friends, and family. I do think all of the teddy bears, red heart boxes of chocolates, and carnations are pretty cheesy though. This is a holiday for you to show appreciation for the people in your life that mean the most to you. Not with a teddy bear, or chocolate but with kind words, a home made card, home made dinner, or a backrub. We take people we love for granted so much, and to have one day to stop and show someone how much you love them is a great thing. Some of you are saying "Well, that should be done all the time. We shouldn't have to have a holiday to do that." I agree, but it doesn't happen all the time, and we all know that. So, to all of you out there who have kept up with me, put up with me, and helped me so much through all my ups and downs... I can't tell you how much I appreciate you, and how glad I am that you've touched my life in one way or another.
By the way, does anyone have any ex-boyfriend repellant? You know, like a Raid type thing. Because let me tell you, I'm fuckin infested! Today, no joke, all in one day
Mama's Boy, Chester, Marine, and Patterson all called. Are you kidding me???
Mama's Boy wanted to know if I'd given any thought to what we talked about. Yes, and the answer is still no.
Chester wanted to follow up to get my answer to if I'd be his Valentine. Yeah, um I'm still gonna need a little time on that.
Marine called to give me his new phone number, say Happy Valentine's Day, then proceed to tell me about some girl from the internet that he met in person who told him that she likes to be beat up and choked out during sex, and another girl (also from the internet) that he has a date with on Friday. That's great, Happy Valentine's Day to you too... idiot. And, last but not least,
Patterson wanted to call and remind me that we were supposed to go to Disneyland this weekend, and would be there right now had I not broken up with him. Yes, in a perfect world we would be in Disneyland together, I would be 5 months pregnant, and you wouldn't have been such a dickhead when we were together, but we're not, I'm not, and you were, so I don't need updates from you to remind me of this. Move on! Oh my god, I need new people in my life! Not the same old recycled shmucks! I do admit that it is my fault for allowing them to keep coming back. I'm a sucker. I know. They all (well, most of them) know exactly what I wanted from them when we were together so they come back now and use that to sucker me back in. I'm weak. I know. I definitely need to work on that.
Surprise, Surprise
You aren't going to believe this! It didn't even take
Mama's Boy an entire month to call me after he was so adamant about us never speaking again. HAHAHAHAHA!!! Big surprise. He's all talk, and noooooo action. It's so funny how he thinks his threats to never talk to me again, or to walk out of my life forever actually hold any consequence with me. You remember about a month ago, after my night with
Marine, when
Mama's Boy called the next day. When I told him what happened with
Marine it turned into a huge fight and he said he didn't think we should ever talk again, I said that was fine with me and hung up on him, obviously knowing he would call again.... and again... and again. Sure enough, he sent me a text message this morning (coincidentally on Valentine's weekend) that said "
are you ever going to be with me again?" After I finished laughing my ass off, I replied with "
are you going to be an asshole for the rest of your life?" He acted like he had no idea what I was talking about. I told him that the last time we talked he was mean as hell, and has been that way for a while which is why I want pretty much nothing to do with him. He said that it's because he's in love with me, and can't stand the fact that he can't have me, and because he hates hearing about me being with anyone else. I told him to sell his bullshit to someone who will buy it. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He's still running around with his little jailbait girlfriend in NM, doing god only knows what and tries to make me feel guilty about having a life out here. I also told him that I know he lied to me about being with jailbait because, he referred to her as his girlfriend when he ran into my sister at the mall when I was still in town over the holidays, which means he was with her when I saw him. He insisted my sister is lying, that he said EX-girlfriend. Riiiiiiiiiiiiiight. Then he said that she's out of his life forever now, and I don't have to worry about her anymore. Forever huh? Just like we were never supposed to talk again? Oh, and P.S. I was never
worried about her, she can have you! Then, just for shits and giggles I told him that I have decided to move back to NM. He was like "
Really??? so we can have another chance?" Ummm no. Then just to piss him off just a little bit more, I told him I have actually started talking to
Chester again. He knows all about, and definitely hates
Chester. He knows that I was seeing
Chester right before we got together, and that I kept talking to him throughout our relationship. He was SO jealous of him because he knew I cared about him a lot. I always joked about keeping
Chester around in case things didn't work out between us, that he was my back-up. So, I knew bringing him up would hit a nerve. He goes "
Oh, so you're gonna be with HIM then??" I told him no, I'm not going to be with anyone. I'm going back to go to school not to re-live any old, fucked up relationships. I told him conversations like this make me want to say fuck school and stay out here away from all that stupid drama. Then he turned all nice again, and acted totally supportive of my decision to go back to school. And, (as my best friend would say) "The
Mama's boy saga continues..."
